Kissing, Sex, Love and Everything…
It’s amazing how much people put too much premium in a kiss. It made Sleeping Beauty wake up from a hundred-year sleep, broke the evil curse that was cast on the Frog Prince and restored him to full human-ness, made Snow White come back to life.. . Honestly, that’s a lot of fuss for skin on skin! Hmmm. Must be the pheromones we give out, although every living creature gives out chemicals and they don’t have to kiss…
Not that I’d know what the fuss was all about. You see, just like Drew Barrymore in that movie, at 24, I have never been kissed. Should this be a cause of shame, envy, ridicule, pride, celebration, depression? Take your pick. I’m not so sure myself. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not expecting my first kiss to be spectacular, complete with fireworks and such. I know that with all the hype I get from media and my own frenzied imagination that it could possible never live up to what I picture it to be. Somehow I just sometimes wish I could freaking get it over with. After the first it should all be blasé. Gawd. Hope I never think this with sex. I am against pre-marital sex, have I mentioned that before? Well, so there. Being single is hard enough without being prepared for children and suddenly finding out you’ll be raising a kid alone in like, 7 months! In some cases you might even be forced into marriage even if you aren’t ready for it. I’m not condemning anyone but I think that beyond expressing love and whatever contraceptives you use to prevent conception, sex should be respected as something only done within marriage. If you call yourself a Catholic then you should find out why it’s part the Church’s teachings and try to live it out and not just be a Cafeteria Catholic, going into devotee mode only when it suits you. It is not just because I choose to blindly follow in what the nuns at Catholic school taught me, I do believe there is logic behind wanting to be chaste before marriage and if that makes me an old-fashioned prude I don’t care. I am liberal about most things but I don’t think I will be in that aspect. That’s me, mind you. I accept it if other people do or think otherwise.
I also believe it would be easier on the relationship if you get to know each other without the complication of raging hormones. A guy friend mentioned that he lost his virginity to a friend of his, blaming it all to lust. Sheesh. How convenient for him. *rolleyes * Ewan ko ba, bakit ganun ang guys… mahirap na talaga makakita ng guy na virgin and proud of it. Ako proud ako na virgin ako in all aspects, ewan ko na lang sa never been kissed thing pero natural naman yun kasi NBSB ako. I dunno why it has to be such a taboo thing or a cause for sniggers in a guy’s case. Sa tingin ko, yung guy friend ko na yun nakipag-sex na din dahil sa peer pressure. To a girl hindi big deal na virgin pero sa iba, normal na din yung sleeping with their boyfriend. Dahil kasi liberated na karamihan sa mga tao. They want “express love”. Impatient sila kaya kahit na ilang weeks pa lang kilala, mag-on na. Being in a relationship entails intimacy, not just physical, but emotional and better yet, spiritual. How I wish God’s Perfect Choice would be as committed to that as I am. I don’t know that many guys since I don’t really date out but I hope I get to meet him one of these days, perhaps through a fantastic incident? Hehe! Lumalabas pagka-hopeless romantic ko.
Anyways, I want to fall in love with the right guy. I believe just as they mentioned in “Winter Sonata”, when you fall in love there is no reason. You just know you are in love just like you know there is a God. Mostly we could attribute this to plain faith and just shrug it off to one of those personal things you cannot fully articulate but know with your whole being is the right thing. I do hope when I get kissed it would be by someone I have affection for and not just because it is the thing to do after a date. And while we’re on the topic, more embarrassing is the fact that I have never been on a romantic date before. :p Am I the biggest loser/geek/freak on Earth or what? It just never comes up. We never had high school dances or the Prom when I was in high school and in college, well, I never did find anyone I can say was worth asking out. As if ako pa dapat mag-ask di ba! Ewan, I admit I intimidate guys and I have a problem with relating to the opposite sex on a personal/romantic level. In front of a guy I like I just freeze up and my brain turns to mush! That’s why I love going online. Andami kong hirit at comments pero in front of people I don’t know too well I clam up. Although if I really want to solve my relationship crisis, I could go on blind dates, right? And any one of my friends could set me up, really. I have friends, real ones, not imaginary. Hehehe! Maybe it’s time I do get out. I am of marrying age. I’m really glad my parents don’t set me up with the sons of their friends, that would be soo humiliating! Somehow they think I am doomed to spinsterhood like my aunts and have no other interest than books, TV and studying. Not really. If they knew me well enough they’d know I have high expectations that I don’t entirely believe can be all met. Again, in my defense, I am waiting for that “Love when I see it” moment. That’s why I believe in love at first sight. Technically I don’t think it is love but a prelude to it: intense interest or attraction that is inexplicable but is there inspite of the fact that he’s a stranger. And ideally, the more you get to know him the more you like him. I hate getting annoyed or bored! I have a short attention span and the guy for me would have to be all-out wonderful to sustain my interest for a lifetime. Maybe it is impossible to ask for but if I do settle for anything less than that I know I won’t really be happy. That’s what comforts me. Instead of making do I am holding out for the best and with that I am content.
It’s amazing how much people put too much premium in a kiss. It made Sleeping Beauty wake up from a hundred-year sleep, broke the evil curse that was cast on the Frog Prince and restored him to full human-ness, made Snow White come back to life.. . Honestly, that’s a lot of fuss for skin on skin! Hmmm. Must be the pheromones we give out, although every living creature gives out chemicals and they don’t have to kiss…
Not that I’d know what the fuss was all about. You see, just like Drew Barrymore in that movie, at 24, I have never been kissed. Should this be a cause of shame, envy, ridicule, pride, celebration, depression? Take your pick. I’m not so sure myself. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not expecting my first kiss to be spectacular, complete with fireworks and such. I know that with all the hype I get from media and my own frenzied imagination that it could possible never live up to what I picture it to be. Somehow I just sometimes wish I could freaking get it over with. After the first it should all be blasé. Gawd. Hope I never think this with sex. I am against pre-marital sex, have I mentioned that before? Well, so there. Being single is hard enough without being prepared for children and suddenly finding out you’ll be raising a kid alone in like, 7 months! In some cases you might even be forced into marriage even if you aren’t ready for it. I’m not condemning anyone but I think that beyond expressing love and whatever contraceptives you use to prevent conception, sex should be respected as something only done within marriage. If you call yourself a Catholic then you should find out why it’s part the Church’s teachings and try to live it out and not just be a Cafeteria Catholic, going into devotee mode only when it suits you. It is not just because I choose to blindly follow in what the nuns at Catholic school taught me, I do believe there is logic behind wanting to be chaste before marriage and if that makes me an old-fashioned prude I don’t care. I am liberal about most things but I don’t think I will be in that aspect. That’s me, mind you. I accept it if other people do or think otherwise.
I also believe it would be easier on the relationship if you get to know each other without the complication of raging hormones. A guy friend mentioned that he lost his virginity to a friend of his, blaming it all to lust. Sheesh. How convenient for him. *rolleyes * Ewan ko ba, bakit ganun ang guys… mahirap na talaga makakita ng guy na virgin and proud of it. Ako proud ako na virgin ako in all aspects, ewan ko na lang sa never been kissed thing pero natural naman yun kasi NBSB ako. I dunno why it has to be such a taboo thing or a cause for sniggers in a guy’s case. Sa tingin ko, yung guy friend ko na yun nakipag-sex na din dahil sa peer pressure. To a girl hindi big deal na virgin pero sa iba, normal na din yung sleeping with their boyfriend. Dahil kasi liberated na karamihan sa mga tao. They want “express love”. Impatient sila kaya kahit na ilang weeks pa lang kilala, mag-on na. Being in a relationship entails intimacy, not just physical, but emotional and better yet, spiritual. How I wish God’s Perfect Choice would be as committed to that as I am. I don’t know that many guys since I don’t really date out but I hope I get to meet him one of these days, perhaps through a fantastic incident? Hehe! Lumalabas pagka-hopeless romantic ko.
Anyways, I want to fall in love with the right guy. I believe just as they mentioned in “Winter Sonata”, when you fall in love there is no reason. You just know you are in love just like you know there is a God. Mostly we could attribute this to plain faith and just shrug it off to one of those personal things you cannot fully articulate but know with your whole being is the right thing. I do hope when I get kissed it would be by someone I have affection for and not just because it is the thing to do after a date. And while we’re on the topic, more embarrassing is the fact that I have never been on a romantic date before. :p Am I the biggest loser/geek/freak on Earth or what? It just never comes up. We never had high school dances or the Prom when I was in high school and in college, well, I never did find anyone I can say was worth asking out. As if ako pa dapat mag-ask di ba! Ewan, I admit I intimidate guys and I have a problem with relating to the opposite sex on a personal/romantic level. In front of a guy I like I just freeze up and my brain turns to mush! That’s why I love going online. Andami kong hirit at comments pero in front of people I don’t know too well I clam up. Although if I really want to solve my relationship crisis, I could go on blind dates, right? And any one of my friends could set me up, really. I have friends, real ones, not imaginary. Hehehe! Maybe it’s time I do get out. I am of marrying age. I’m really glad my parents don’t set me up with the sons of their friends, that would be soo humiliating! Somehow they think I am doomed to spinsterhood like my aunts and have no other interest than books, TV and studying. Not really. If they knew me well enough they’d know I have high expectations that I don’t entirely believe can be all met. Again, in my defense, I am waiting for that “Love when I see it” moment. That’s why I believe in love at first sight. Technically I don’t think it is love but a prelude to it: intense interest or attraction that is inexplicable but is there inspite of the fact that he’s a stranger. And ideally, the more you get to know him the more you like him. I hate getting annoyed or bored! I have a short attention span and the guy for me would have to be all-out wonderful to sustain my interest for a lifetime. Maybe it is impossible to ask for but if I do settle for anything less than that I know I won’t really be happy. That’s what comforts me. Instead of making do I am holding out for the best and with that I am content.
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